Dr Nighat Arif from DOCTORnow – a private general medical service based at Champneys Tring – has kindly provided us with some valuable advice on Coping with Divorce, and how separation affects couples, individuals, their children and extended family:
“At the end of the day, every couple has a point in their relationship where the negatives stack up so much that being together causes more distress. It is up to the couple to decide where that line in the sand is drawn. Sadly when such transitions in life happen, casualties occur and when a heart breaks it does not break even. One person in the relationship might not want a divorce. Friends, parents and children might get caught in the middle. So I have yet to come across a couple whose health is not affected by the process- even for the partner who has called ‘time’ on the marriage, and who really wants to be free of it.”
Dr Arif offers excellent advice on looking after your health during separation, and encourages people to seek help from their GP or other support services if they find themselves struggling:
“Firstly start with looking after yourself. Don’t isolate yourself, as that can raise your stress levels, reduce your sleep, and get in the way of your work. Be good to yourself and to your body. Take time out to exercise, eat well and relax. Keep to your normal routines as much as possible. Don’t use alcohol, drugs or cigarettes as a way to cope; they only lead to more problems. Sharing your feelings with friends and family can help you get through this period. Consider joining a support group where you can talk to others in similar situations. Don’t be afraid to get outside help if you need it.”
Dr Arif also recognises the added difficulties and issues that divorcing parents face, reminding couples that sometimes staying together ‘for the sake of the children‘ isn’t the best answer:
“Divorce isn’t such a tragedy. A tragedy is staying in an unhappy marriage. As a parent use the divorce as an opportunity to teach. Teach forgiveness. Teach resourcefulness. Teach independence, and teach your children resilience. They will be stronger for it…”
Read Dr Arif’s full article here.
At Frances Lindsay & Co, we see the effect of divorce on our clients every day, and know how important it is to look after yourself during separation. Let us take the weight off your shoulders – speak to a friendly family solicitor at our Maidenhead or Beaconsfield offices for more advice on the options and process of separation.