January 03, 2017 | Posted by : J Morris
Family Mediation Week will take place from 23-27 January this year, raising awareness of the benefits of mediation as an alternative method of separation.
Family mediation is an out-of-court option that offers a collaborative and respectful method of settling differences and finding a mutually beneficial solution for separating couples. Cooperation is at the core of mediation, and family mediators are there to support couples in coming to an agreement about their financial and family-based issues while avoiding the costs, stress and antagonism of going to court. Mediation is also an option for cohabiting couples, and is especially suited to those with children, since child-based mediation has ...
July 28, 2016 | Posted by : J Morris
Divorcing when you have children means there are more than just the two of you to consider. Your children’s well-being needs to come first – no matter how angry or bitter you may be about the split, and no matter how hard it is to negotiate a resolution. It can be difficult for parents to put themselves in their children’s shoes during separation, and even the most well-intentioned parents can take the wrong approach. On one end of the spectrum, some parents try to protect their kids by pretending everything’s normal, when children usually prefer to know what’s going on, so long as it’s explained ...
May 19, 2016 | Posted by : J Morris
Child maintenance is the regular payment of financial support to a child or children’s primary caregiver (eg: the parent or guardian they live with for the majority of the time) by the non-residential caregiver. Some parents negotiate child maintenance through the family courts as part of a financial settlement, or use the Child Maintenance Service (CMS) to claim statutory child maintenance when communication between parents is difficult. However, it’s also possible to arrange child maintenance privately between you and your ex, with the professional guidance of a family law solicitor.
Making private arrangements for child maintenance will require trust, cooperation and collaboration – which is why it ...
February 23, 2016 | Posted by : J Morris
A recent survey by YouGov in support of Family Mediation Week has revealed a lack of support for couples seeking information on separation, especially when related to children’s issues and finances. According to the poll, up to 38% of respondents were unaware of out-of-court alternatives to separation, such as mediation, arbitration and collaborative family law.
The results of the survey showed that couples felt more positive about the process and outcome of their separation when they had greater access to information about their options. In general, 48% of respondents said that they felt positively about their separation, but this percentage increased and decreased across the country ...
February 17, 2016 | Posted by : J Morris
When you have children, divorce or separation can be an overwhelming prospect. There are so many questions, so many ‘what ifs’, and so many factors to consider. Who will the children live with? Will you be able to stay in the family home? How often will your children see each parent?
Research has shown that children of separated parents find it easier to adjust to changes when they are able to continue to spend quality time with both parents in a consistent and relaxed manner. There are, of course, exceptions to this guideline – and if a child is fearful or anxious about visiting one ...
January 13, 2016 | Posted by : J Morris
Divorcing couples often find themselves divorce blame when it comes to negotiating a settlement. From the outset, ‘fault’ is assigned when one party states grounds for divorce – be it adultery, abandonment, or unreasonable behaviour. It’s understandable that separating couples feel the need to lay blame on one another – divorce is a melting pot of emotions, and holding your ex responsible for the hurt you’re feeling is a natural reaction. .And for someone who has had to endure a cheating spouse or emotional abuse, dividing up their assets equally can seem horribly unfair, especially when their ex’s bad conduct is at the root of their divorce However, it is a common misconception that bad behaviour will influence ...
November 11, 2015 | Posted by : J Morris
A recent US pilot study suggests that family mediation focused on the needs and feelings of children leads to a more cooperative outcome, reduced conflict, better communication, and twice the amount of parenting time with fathers.
The trial took place at the Indiana University School of Law Family and Children Mediation Clinic and involved a small, randomised, controlled group of separating parents who took part in ‘Child Informed Mediation’ (CIM). There were two approaches to mediation during the research: ‘Child Focused’ (CF) mediation, in which parents considered the effects of separation on their children throughout the process of negotiating an agreement; and ‘Child Inclusive’ (CI), in which ...
September 26, 2015 | Posted by : J Morris
When unmarried, cohabiting couples separate, divorce is obviously not an option, but there are several out-of-court alternatives for dispute resolution, including mediation – a popular choice for couples who wish to settle their affairs with dignity and cooperation.
If you’ve been living with your partner as a cohabiting couple and have decided to separate, you may find the legalities of dividing up your assets more complicated than you expected. Despite recent changes to family law, cohabiting couples are still not awarded ...
June 23, 2015 | Posted by : J Morris
Whether you choose divorce, mediation, arbitration or collaborative family law, the way you listen and respond to your partner during the process of separation can make a huge difference to the outcome.
(Successful) dispute resolution is not about getting your own way or dragging your ex through the mud… Instead, it should be about surmounting the issues that got you to this point and finding a way to go your separate ways with a positive outlook. Listening and respecting each other’s point of view is a massive ...
April 11, 2015 | Posted by : J Morris
An academic report from 2014 has demonstrated that couples who went to mediation ‘were generally more willing and able to reach an agreement’ than those who chose to follow a court-based route for separation. For couples with children, an out-of-court process like mediation can make a vast difference to future their relationship as co-parents, and can pave the way for a positive outlook after separation.
Discussing the issues and details of separation can be difficult, but it’s important for parents to be able to work through their problems so that cooperation is possible in the future. One of the main purposes of ...