Five Ways to Approach Divorce With a Positive Attitude

March 25, 2014  |   Posted by :   |   Blog

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Let’s face it, divorce is never going to be an enjoyable process, but that doesn’t mean it can’t have its positives. After all, if you’ve got to the point in a relationship where you’re better off separating from your partner, surely things are going to improve once it’s all over. Finding the benefits within your divorce is a highly personal journey, but here are five approaches to separation that may help you see the light at the end of the tunnel:

  1. Enjoy the space. The period building up to the decision to separate can be intense and stifling. Once you’ve made the break and have your own space, the relief can often feel immense. There’s time to think, space to stretch out, and the independence to do what you want, when you want. And while divorce can sometimes be a lonely experience, it is also a great opportunity to learn to appreciate your own company and get a new sense of who you are without your partner.
  2. Declutter your life. Moving house, changing your living arrangements, or simply chucking out stuff that reminds you of your partner? Having a bit of a spring clean or declutter is good for the soul, and can help get you in the right frame of mind for starting afresh. Just like a toxic relationship, getting rid of anything that ties you down and holds you back is the first step to feeling free and strong again.
  3. Start anew. When a marriage comes to an end, chances are there will be a strong sense of relief that comes alongside the negative emotions of separation. Focus on these positive feelings and use them as a source of strength to rebuild your life the way you want it. Whether you’re relocating, looking for a new job, or simply trying a new hobby, seek out ways to shape and enrich your new life.
  4. Stop fighting. One of the hardest things about divorce is finding yourself pitted against the person you thought you were going to love forever. But arguing for the sake of satisfying your feelings of frustration or anger is only ever going to cause more pain and stress. At some point you need to stop fighting and find the best way to move forward. Use the support of your solicitor to plan out your separation with minimum fuss and animosity, and leave all the negatives behind.
  5. Reconnect. Often divorce can be a catalyst for reconnecting with old friends, family members, or strengthening the bond with your children. In times of stress you tend to find out who your real friends are. There’s absolutely no shame in asking for help, so draw on your nearest and dearest to remind yourself that you have a whole load of other great relationships to replace the one that’s ending.

Moving past the conflict of your divorce and beginning the healing process is a personal and emotional journey, but with the expert advice and support of your solicitor, and the love of your friends and family, a marriage breakdown can turn out to be one of the most positive events of your life. 

For expert support and down-to-earth advice from a local Thames Valley solicitor, get in touch with the team at  Frances Lindsay & Co.

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